You hear me talk a lot about confidence. I talked about the two kinds of confidence - the one in the moment and general confidence we have about ourselves.
But now I want to ask you, in your opinion, what ultimately gives you that strong inner confidence?
Is it money?
Is it your looks?
Is it your physical strenghts?
While I do think all these things help you with feeling confident, ultimately that's not what will give you that strong feeling inside.
I believe there is one key thing that will give you that strong inner confidence you want for yourself.
That thing is...
specific personality traits that make a man attractive, no matter how his face looks.
If I saw a hot girl looking at me or even smile at me, I wouldn't know what to do. I'd get insecure, self conscious, and all I could think about were my insecurities and how she can see right through me.
In other words, I didn't BELIEVE in myself.
You see, when you don't believe in yourself, you wil only see your disadvantages, or perceived disadvantages, and you'll have this level of disrespect towards yourself that only you can give to yourself.
Well, let's fast forward to today. Just the other day, I went out to a night club and as I was standing in the hallway for the bathroom, I saw this really hot girl standing in line. She was quite tall, so I walked up to her and said, "Now that is rare...you have to have a hard time finding a guy for youself..."
I said this in a completely relaxed, as-a-matter-of-fact manner, without any complicated pick-up lines or great openers. I just observed something and said it.
We hit it off, playing, teasing and busting on each other.
Later I found that she's actually a model, and one of the most desirable girls in the club.
Now the question is, what changed?
What was different in me that now I could approach women this casually?
One thing - I CHANGED.
I simply started believing in myself.
I started believing that I HAD something in me that women like, and that I am no different than any other guy.
Believing in yourself means that at one point you stop allowing the world and the people to stick a finger in your face and tell you that you're no good, or not good enough.
It means that you acknowledge the fact that you are no different than anybody else, and that you deserve the best that there is in the world - be it best women, best education, best income, best lifestyle etc.
Anyone that ever achieved anything great in his life, first had to believe in himself - especialy when people around them were doubting them, ridiuculing them or downright opposing them.
One of my favorite examples is Muhammad Ali, the boxer.
Now here's a guy that came out as a 20 and something year old kid, and started telling everyone that he'll be the next world champion in boxing.
Now at that time, the heavyweight champion was Sony Liston, who was considered to be dangerous to kill. Literally no one ever gave Ali any chance of beating him.
They were talking about Sony Liston annihilating him in the first round.
But Ali kept his belief in himself, telling everyone "That ugly bear is nothing..."
When the fight eventually happened, to the surprise of everyone, Ali won the fight, and became the world champion, the youngest boxer ever to do so at that time.
And he was only 22.
Ali could have easily choked and start doubting himself with "Man maybe they are all right, what if I don't win...?"
But he didn't.
Another example is well known Tony Robbins, the strategist, coach and a speaker. I'm sure you know him because of his such strong influence in the self-improvement world.
Most people don't know that Tony Robbins was just a kid in his 20's when he first started coaching.
He was young, driven, ambitious and hungry of success. He wanted to make it, and even though people around him were telling him, "You're too young to be speaking and teaching people on how to succeed...", he didn't listen to them.
He made it as a speaker, as a coach and helped people around the world.
But he didn't stop just there.
He pushed himself more and eneded up coaching people like princess Diana, Bill Clinton, famous actors, athletes etc.
Now let's be honest here.
Most people would just flat out sh** themselves if they were put on the spotlight to help people like that.
But he didn't.
No, the dude had some cohones in his pants and went out and met these people.
Well for one, he probably didn't say to himself, "O, I couldn't do that...who am I, just a kid from the street to be meeting people like that..."
But he said to himself, "Well, why not me?"
Believing in yourself often times involves simply questioning the dogma or the status quo of "I could never do that..." into "Why not me?"
Derrick Rose, the NBA player said, "Why wouldn't I be the best player in the league...I see no reason why not me..."
I want to encourage you to stop saying to yourself, "Ahh, who am I to do this..." and start saying to yourself "Why not me?"
How do you start believing in yourself?
I have to say that this isn't an overnight process. It does take a bit of work, but if you do this one thing that I want to share with you, you will notice massive changes in how you feel.
So what is it?
Well it's simple - yet very effective. And the reason it's effective is because it's simple.
It's this simple question:
"If I believed 10% more in myself, I would..."
And now finish the sentecne with at least 6 to 10 answers.
What would you do differently, if you believed 10% more in yourself?
What is it for you?
I want you to be dilligent about this, and actually do this exercise every single day for the next 2 weeks.
When you do this exercise, you'll soon notice yourself doing the things - or not doing other things - that you write about.
It will work as a command to your brain, and change how you think, feel and behave.
You'll notice that with this simple exercise, you'll develop more and more belief in yourself.
Do this exercise immediately, don't put it off. And if you want, please share what you got in the coments section below.
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you're not letting out on the surface.
or not it is actually possible for you to get good with women.
You see, during your life, you've been taught a whole bunch of limiting beliefs about yourself - from what you "deserve", to how attractive you are, to which "league" of women you belong in etc.
These beliefs form your first BIG obstacle to having the kind of success with women you always wanted.
And right now I want to share with you exactly how you can overcome these powerful limiting beliefs that you need to deal with if you are to EVER have any kind of major success with women and dating.
But then one day I started thinking a bit about this idea of freedom. I thought about the connection between outside and inside world.
Then I stumbled uppon a book the 50th law.
In it there was a chapter about a boxer champion who was arrested for murder and later convicted to 3 consequtive life sentences.
Recently I was at this small restaurant, eating a sandwich, and as always, I observed what was going on around me.
As I was eating, this hot, dark haired girl comes in the restaurant, walks to the counter, orders and waits for her food to take away.
At this point, I start noticing what other guys are doing - and most of them are kind of quiet, eating their sandwich, but they are very aware that this hot girl is in here - and occasionally check her out.
And at that moment, I could feel this weird tension in the room. Like guys were in it together - like they agreed before she came to be quiet and just act cool - while craving for her.
It suddenly hit me that guys are in this weird state, a state of "I like her, but I don't have a chance in hell with her...but I can't help myself from feeling this strong attraction for her."
You know what I'm talking about right?
You had to have it happen - you would be somewhere, when this gorgeous woman would walk in the room and you could just feel the tension in the room.
It's like, the tension is so strong, that you could literally slice it like butter and put it on a piece of bread.
Well, I actually have a name for this state. It's called: "Hanging Dick"
One of the things that really stopped my success with women when I started with this "dating" game was, that I waited until I knew everything and THEN I could start approaching and talking to girls.
It had to be perfect for me.
I had to know ALL the lines, routines, what to say, how to say when to say it etc. I wanted to know EVERYTHING.
Well this me wanting to know everything was actually stopping me BIG time when it came to actually having any kind of success with women.
Let's stop for a second and let's think of this sequence.
So this model is pretty easy. It's something ANY guy can learn.
But what happens is we guys take this model and than we say:
"I need to find out every possible detail of every single part. I need to know how exactly do I hold her hand, how strong, and which part.."
This thinking has WRONG written all over the place
WRONG WRONG WRONG
So what is right?
Let's move to the best advice I've ever received about pick up.
STAY IN SEQUENCE.
What does that mean?
It means this. There are a few different stages from a beginner to a master. Stages that if you try to jump the sequence too fast will cost you in PARALYSIS.
These are the stages:
Do you sometimes see a movie, and you think to yourself...that guy in that movie is sooo cool. I want to be just like him. And than, you start to behave like him in one way or another?
Or do you think about things when you are alone, and you think to yourself, how great it would be, if you would be that cool guy that everyone admired?
Do you maybe secretly harbor thoughts of superiority over other guys who have the success that you envy them?
Well, there is much more to it. But generally, what this all means is, you haven't found your way in this world yet, and you are outside oriented on what should you do, you are confused about what should you say or do or how to behave or how to act.
And like that is not bad enough, you don't have the ability to attract any woman in your life unless you use techniques, manipulate, lie, get them drunk or catch those skanky hoes that are sometimes referred as "party girls". You feelin` me right ;)
So whats going on here?
I wanted to make a post as a sum-up of some of the main things I do today, that I see as the reason why is this whole gaming women and meeting them is so easy for me today.
Just today, I was walking across town and stopped to buy some gum. There was a cute girl working there so I started bantering with her:
Me: Do you have gum?
Her: Yea, which one would you like?
Me: Um, give me my favorites
Her: And those are?
Me: Are you kidding me? You don't know which ones are my favorites? Where is the complain book, I have to make a note of this immediately...
The girl ended up walking out of the boot and in the conversation, wanted me to visit her in two days to see her new dress?
Anyways, I wasn't all into her, so I ended the conversation and walked off.
As I was walking, I felt good about myself - as usual, and this girl was walking in my direction.
Our eyes caught - and then she lifted her arm, and kind of punched me in the chest - but not hard, just barely.
I immediately responded: O shit, now you must die!
We bantered a bit and I walked off with her number.
So why does this kind of things happen to me now, while previously I struggled to even get a girl to talk to me?
It's because I DEVELOPED certain qualities in myself.
And in this post, I want to share with you some of the qualities that I developed in myself, that I believe are the reason why I can do these kind of things today.
If you really want to "make" it with women, there are 3 main things that you need to do..
If you don't do these 3 things - or any of these 3 things, the likelehood of you succeeding is not very high. But if you do, you can very quickly become a real "Mr.Seducer".
So what are the 3 things? Here they are:
Thing to do #1: Go Where Women Are
This one is a no brainer, right? Well, some guys believe that they will meet a woman sitting at home, watching tv or reading a book - or by learning some new system for getting girls.
It's a no no.
Going out where women are is the only way you will meet women. Ok, you can meet them online, but then again you would be going where they are - at various dating sites.
Some guys feel uncomfortable going where the women are. They feel more comfortable at home.
So if you feel uncomfortable going out in public, and hanging out where the women are, there is something very powerful that you can use to eliminate your discomfort.
In 1949 John Wayne (the guy on the left) starred in a war movie called "Sands Of Iwo Jima".
In that movie, John Wayne played a tough marine sergeant John Stryker, and it was in this movie that Wayne showed us what a pussy he really was.
Now, in the modern day, Wayne is credited with basically inventing balls and courage and in equating any guy that shows any signs of balls as being a "real John Wayne".
And if you watch any of John Waynes movies, you can see why that is.
He's always cool, tough and courageous, and when he's out there chasing the bad guy, he looks like he's going to fall asleep from boredom.
And in this particular movie he was as always cool, tough and poised, but there was one particular scene in it when John Wayne was asked a question by one of his men, that revealed the bare naked truth about John Wayne.
Hey I'm Omir, the guy behind VC, the author of The Natural's Way book, and here to help you liberate yourself from your fears, limitations and insecurities, so you can become amazingly confident with women.
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